"Top" - Orgasms at your Pace

Normally you orgasm quickly especially during solo sex. Why? Because you're in control. But who says you can't take charge of your orgasm during intercourse? In this excerpt from her book "5 Minutes to Orgasm Every Time You Make Love", author D. Claire Hutchins gives the play-by-play on exactly how to achieve orgasm at your pace.

After you and your partner have participated in foreplay, however much you want, and when you feel ready for sex, have your man lie on his back, his penis aroused and standing ready for you to straddle him. Don't be in too much of a hurry to get him inside of you. Take advantage of the opportunity to display your body; he will love watching you work. With him on his back and you on your knees, swing one leg over him and balance your weight on your knees. Then lean forward to take some of your weight on your hands. Take his penis in hand and rub your moist vaginal lips and clitoris against it. Tease the head of his penis by sliding it back and forth across your vaginal opening, occasionally inserting just the tip and taking it out again. Finally, slide it in gently and slowly. You may need to use a free hand, or he can use his, to guide his penis into your vagina. Straddling his thighs, you lower yourself onto his penis. Once he is inside of you, sink down on him, remaining upright from the waist up.

In this position, you control the depth of penile penetration and the pace of thrusting. You manipulate the amount of friction and the speed. You have an infinite variety of movements. You can raise your body up and down, bend forward with your breasts touching his chest or slide your breasts back and forth. You can move your pelvis and abdomen sideways and in all directions to give different kinds of erotic pleasure. Lean forward to create friction between his pubic bone and your clitoris. Men may want to arch their backs and raise their pelvises to help create a connection between the clitoris and penis.

Try all variations and see what stimulates you most. You will be very deeply penetrated, and the man's most sensitive area is buried deeply within your moist and warm vagina. Your partner can rest while enjoying exquisite sensations. When you have your orgasm, he can feel the rippling of your vaginal muscles much more intensely than in any other position.